Showing posts with label empathy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label empathy. Show all posts

Monday, June 30, 2025

What Happened To you (James Catchpole)

 


Great book for teaching kids about thinking about questions they ask...how do you think that person feels when you ask that question. Getting to know a person and appreciating things they love before asking too many personal questions is a good start to positive personal relationships.


Goodreads says:

The first ever picture book addressing how a disabled child might want to be spoken to.

What happened to you? 
Was it a shark? A burglar? A lion? Did it fall off?

Every time Joe goes out the questions are the same . . . what happened to his leg? But is this even a question Joe has to answer?

A ground-breaking, funny story that helps children understand what it might feel like to be seen as different.

Thursday, April 4, 2024

Stolen Focus (Johann Hari)

 

This is a great book. The author did a great job of researching and sharing the research many have worked on with focus. I will definitely implement some of his suggestions.

1. Stop multitasking. It doesn't work. Switching from one task to another takes much longer for our brain to reconfigure than we realize.

2. Read more books. I probably didn't need to read this to make that goal - but he certainly does make a good argument for why this is so important. Comprehension, focus and empathy are what we lose when we don't read.  I can resolve to take more time with a book though. Speed-reading is a detriment to comprehension and causes us to miss something.

3. Walk more...and without a podcast or book playing in headphones. Taking time to wander and to let our minds wander is key to creativity. He also has a really good argument for more unstructured play time and recess. I will definitely make sure there are more movement breaks and that everyone gets out for recess in my class.

4. Try to understand. Have conversations with people who believe totally different than you and try to really understand their perspective on an issue.

5. Limit Social Media and take big breaks from it. I've often heard people, especially church leaders in our church, tell us to do a social media fast. I've never been a big fan because so much communication happens in my circles with social media. His explanation of data tracking, AI and more was the most convincing thing I've read. He tells a really interesting story about a conversation with a scientist who shared with him about seeing a room full of people all wearing VR headsets....all but Mark Zuckerberg (who was at the front of the room speaking to the group). He said this is a metaphor for our future. We are being led, tracked and manipulated by social media. 

One part I wasn't sold on was his chapters on ADHD. He summarizes that the reason children have ADHD is because of stress imposed upon them in certain periods of life.

Some of my favorite take-aways:


Anne Mangan, a professor of literacy at the University of Stavanger in Norway, explained to me that in two decades of researching this subject, she has proved something crucial. Reading books trains us to read in a particular way - in a linear fashion, focused on one thing for a sustained period. Reading from screens, she has discovered, trains us to read in a different way - in a manic skip and jump from one thing to another...this [reading on screens] creates a different relationship with reading. It stops being a form of pleasurable immersion in another world and becomes more like dashing around a busy supermarket to grab what you need and then get out again. When this flip takes place - when our screen reading contaminates our book-reading - we lose some of the pleasures of reading books themselves  and they become less appealing.

It has other knock-on effects. Anne has conducted studies that split people into two groups, where one is given information in a printed book and the other is given the same information on a screen. Everyone is then asked questions about what they just read. When you do this, you find that people understand and remember less of what they absorb on screens. There's broad scientific evidence for this now, emerging from fifty-four studies, and she explained that it's referred to as "screen inferiority". This gap in understanding between books and screens is big enough that in elementary school children, it's the equivalent of two-thirds of a year's growth in reading comprehension. 

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When you read a novel, you are immersing yourself in what it's like to be inside another person's head. You are simulating a social situation. You are imagining other people and their experiences in a deep and complex way. So maybe, he said, if you read a lot of novels, you will become better at actually understanding other people off the page. Perhaps fiction is a kind of empathy gym, boosting your ability to empathize with other people - which is one of the most rich and precious forms of focus we have. Together, they decided to study this question scientifically.

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We internalize the texture of the voices we're exposed to. When you expose yourself to complex stories about the inter lives of people over long periods of time, that will repattern your consciousness. You will become more perceptive, open, and empathetic. If, by contrast, you expose yourself for hours a day to the disconnected fragments of shrieking and fury that dominate social media, your thoughts will start to be shaped like that. Your internal voices will become cruder, louder, less able to hear more tender and gentle thoughts. Take care of what technologies you use, because your consciousness will, over time, come to be shaped like those technologies.

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If enough people are spending enough of their time being angered, that starts to change the culture, ....it "turns hate into a habit." You can see this seeping into the bones of our society. When I was a teenager there was horrific crime in Britain, where two ten-year-old children murdered a toddler named Jamie Bulger. The Conservative prime minister at the time, John Major, responded by publicly saying that he believed we need "to condemn a little more, and understand a little less." I remembered thinking then, at the age of fourteen, that this was surely wrong - that' it's always better to understand why people do things, even (perhaps especially) the most heinous acts. But today, this attitude - condemn more, understand less - has become the default response to almost everyone, from the right to the left, as we spend our lives dancing to the tune of algorithms that reward fury and penalize mercy.

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The country that is often judged by international league tables to have the most successful schools in the world, Finland, is closer to these progressive models than anything we would recognize. Their children don't go to school at all until they are seven years old - before then, they just play. Between the ages of seven and sixteen, kids arrive at school at 9 am and leave at 2 pm. They are given almost no homework, and they take almost no tests until they graduate from high school. Free play is at the beating heart of Finnish kids' lives: by law, teachers have to give kids fifteen minutes of free play for every forty-five minutes of instructions. What's the outcome? Only 0.1 percent of their kids are diagnosed with attention problems, and Finns are among the most literate, numerate and happy people in the world.


Goodreads says:
Our ability to pay attention is collapsing. From the New York Times bestselling author of Chasing the Scream and Lost Connections comes a groundbreaking examination of why this is happening--and how to get our attention back.

In the United States, teenagers can focus on one task for only sixty-five seconds at a time, and office workers average only three minutes. Like so many of us, Johann Hari was finding that constantly switching from device to device and tab to tab was a diminishing and depressing way to live. He tried all sorts of self-help solutions--even abandoning his phone for three months--but nothing seemed to work. So Hari went on an epic journey across the world to interview the leading experts on human attention--and he discovered that everything we think we know about this crisis is wrong.

We think our inability to focus is a personal failure to exert enough willpower over our devices. The truth is even more disturbing: our focus has been stolen by powerful external forces that have left us uniquely vulnerable to corporations determined to raid our attention for profit. Hari found that there are twelve deep causes of this crisis, from the decline of mind-wandering to rising pollution, all of which have robbed some of our attention. In Stolen Focus, he introduces readers to Silicon Valley dissidents who learned to hack human attention, and veterinarians who diagnose dogs with ADHD. He explores a favela in Rio de Janeiro where everyone lost their attention in a particularly surreal way, and an office in New Zealand that discovered a remarkable technique to restore workers' productivity.

Crucially, Hari learned how we can reclaim our focus--as individuals, and as a society--if we are determined to fight for it. Stolen Focus will transform the debate about attention and finally show us how to get it back.

Tuesday, February 13, 2024

Do You Speak Fish? (CJ Corchin)

 

A super cute way to talk about thinking about things from other people's perspectives and communicating with people that are tricky to communicate with.

Goodreads says:

A simple yet heartwarming story that demonstrates how to overcome communication barriers and better understand those who come from different backgrounds and cultures

When a child meets a fish and says hello, the fish does not respond. The child is shocked. What a rude fish! But soon the child learns that it's not up to the fish to speak the child's language. And if the child wants to communicate, he'll have to take the time to learn how to speak Fish.

Monday, December 27, 2021

Inside Cat (Brendan Wenzel)

 



Follow up to They All Saw a Cat. Brilliant illustrations. Worth taking the time to soak them all up!

Goodreads says:
Told in rhyming text, Inside Cat views the world through many windows, watching the birds, squirrels, and people go by--but when the door opens it discovers a whole new view.

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

We Don't Eat Our Classmates (Ryan T Higgins)



*Contrasts and contradictions: We don’t expect a dinosaur to be in school! We also don’t expect a teacher to let her stay when she has a problem with EATING classmates!!
*What might the author be trying to teach us?
  •  everyone has their own challenges
  • We need to watch for people who are left out and help them
  • Dinosaur learned what it was like when he got bit (empathy)
  • Everyone has expectations about school. What are some things we expect about school? What if someone expects something totally different than you?
  • We should never never ever eat our classmates! LOL


Goodreads says:

Penelope the dinosaur starts school, but it’s hard to make friends when her classmates are so delicious!

It’s the first day of school for Penelope Rex, and she can’t wait to meet her classmates. But it’s hard to make human friends when they’re so darn delicious! That is, until Penelope gets a taste of her own medicine and finds she may not be at the top of the food chain after all. . . . Readers will gobble up this hilarious new story from award-winning author-illustrator Ryan T. Higgins.
--books.disney.com
 

Saturday, June 2, 2018

Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts (Susan Cain)

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Every teacher and parent should read this book. I can't tell you how often I've had conversations with people about what we should do about a kid who is a loner recess. Embarrassingly, I've also talked to parents and their children about how their child doesn't participate in classroom discussions. This book gives great ideas for ways to include and honor kids who are introverts. Kids would do well to read this book too. She has a lot of ideas for ways to do things that are hard for kids that lead towards the introvert life.

Goodreads says:
The monumental bestseller Quiet has been recast in a new edition that empowers introverted kids and teens 

Susan Cain sparked a worldwide conversation when she published Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. With her inspiring book, she permanently changed the way we see introverts and the way introverts see themselves.

The original book focused on the workplace, and Susan realized that a version for and about kids was also badly needed. This book is all about kids' world—school, extracurriculars, family life, and friendship. You’ll read about actual kids who have tackled the challenges of not being extroverted and who have made a mark in their own quiet way. You’ll hear Susan Cain’s own story, and you’ll be able to make use of the tips at the end of each chapter. There’s even a guide at the end of the book for parents and teachers.

This insightful, accessible, and empowering book, illustrated with amusing comic-style art, will be eye-opening to extroverts and introverts alike.

Saturday, May 5, 2018

Wishtree (Katherine Applegate)



Katherine Applegate has done it again. This is a beautiful book! The narrator is a tree. The tree's neighboorhood has a "newcomer" family move into the neighborhood and someone carves the words "leave" into her trunk. The tree is resourceful and communicates with animals and other trees and they gather their resources to solve some of the friendship issues. Unfortunately, someone wants to cut down the tree, so their time is limited.

This is a great book to talk about empathy as well. What would it be like to be the family that is being threatened or to have no friends?

Activity ideas:

  • Make a big tree (on paper) and make wishes
    • one for yourself, one for someone else

Goodreads says:

Trees can't tell jokes, but they can certainly tell stories. . . .

Red is an oak tree who is many rings old. Red is the neighborhood "wishtree"—people write their wishes on pieces of cloth and tie them to Red's branches. Along with her crow friend Bongo and other animals who seek refuge in Red's hollows, this "wishtree" watches over the neighborhood.

You might say Red has seen it all. Until a new family moves in. Not everyone is welcoming, and Red's experiences as a wishtree are more important than ever



Thursday, February 23, 2017

Those Shoes (Maribeth Boelts)


Great story. Have you ever just wanted something because you felt like life would just be better? You'd just be a little cooler? We could all relate. Often, everyone just wants to fit in. In our school kids wear uniforms and they're well aware that one of the benefits of uniforms is that we don't seem to have those issues as much - but they still got the concept. We all had empathy for Jeremy when he just wanted to have the same shoes as everyone else. We felt excited for him when he found some in the second hand store and we understood the crazy idea of squishing your feet into the shoes he finally found even though they were too small. When he gives the shoes away, our hearts sang. There is a great lesson in this story about learning the difference between wants and needs and what really matters when it comes to fitting in.



Goodreads summary:
But all the kids are wearing them! Any child who has ever craved something out of reach will relate to this warm, refreshingly realistic story.

"I have dreams about those shoes. Black high-tops. Two white stripes."

All Jeremy wants is a pair of those shoes, the ones everyone at school seems to be wearing. But Jeremy’s grandma tells him they don’t have room for "want," just "need," and what Jeremy needs are new boots for winter. When Jeremy’s shoes fall apart at school, and the guidance counselor gives him a hand-me-down pair, the boy is more determined than ever to have those shoes, even a thrift-shop pair that are much too small. But sore feet aren’t much fun, and Jeremy comes to realize that the things he has — warm boots, a loving grandma, and the chance to help a friend — are worth more than the things he wants.

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

They All Saw a Cat (Brendan Wenzel)


This is one of those books that makes you think, gee, kids are sure smart! They totally got it. We had a good discussion about how people see things differently and even though we may all be together all day, we all have our own experiences in that day.


The cat walked through the world, with its whiskers, ears, and paws . . .

In this glorious celebration of observation, curiosity, and imagination, Brendan Wenzel shows us the many lives of one cat, and how perspective shapes what we see. When you see a cat, what do you see?